Friendship, “A ship that never sinks.” most popular saying I have heard from time to time.
Do friendships then never break, do they stay for ever and ever…?
We have people who where very close friends, the once we couldn’t think of our life without yet with time they have left us with reasons so diverse.
One friend who was close to me in 3rd grade left the city lost contact, before summer the school was never imaginable with out her yet after the summer in 4th grade was normal with new friends, I have no idea where and what she is up-to in life, my bad the technology was not so connected in 3rd grade. The friendship never sunk yet the paths drifted in this incident.
Fights are common reasons for friends to split, is fight end of friendship? Some cases its a no, we fight this second that the other second we are normal with no issues that could separate us yet there are some fights that end the friendship for ever and ever…. many such incidents have happen in my life…
There are people who where thicker than blood, yet now you hate the site of them. You do everything you can for hurting them. The day you tend to do that is the day you prove that your friendship was not friendship at all.
Misunderstandings come and go in life, if a person told you something there could be a reason for it, instead of hurting one another you must try to analyze the situation.
I want to share an incidents where I lost friendship. The reason for the loss was neither only they nor only me, it was dew to both sides,
First incident which took place in my college life… It was exam time, for my bad luck I was not feeling well, with two exams one after another on the with no day gap, i.e. it was on Saturday and Sunday. The Saturday exam seemed fine because I had day before it to take rest and study too. After finishing the first exam on Saturday traveling made my health a little more to the ground. Next day when I went for exam, my health was not in my favor, my friend told he will help me out by showing, I hate cheating, I never like to copy yet I had never told I wouldn’t help my friends. I didn’t wanted to fail, so I was ok with it, but god never lets me cheat for my progress, the invigilator was an best at his work so my friend was unable to help me, it was not his mistake with no experience to copying I couldn’t do it with out trouble so better was not to try. I was not that angry on him. After this incident when results came surly I scored less in the subject, thank god not so low that I failed. Latter after few more months we had another set of exam, I ensured I wouldn’t fall sick. In this exam, When that same friend showed another girl answers even with a same invigilator I felt my friend didn’t have intention to help me in the first place, but that was not the case, the girl who copied was an expert in cheating. Now the trail of misunderstanding sprouted. With results out, most of them who copied got more marks than me, come on two heads are better than one. If the time was different i wouldn’t have reacted the way I reacted, it was the time when I was going through breakup, making me incapable of thinking straight. So with all do stress I was carrying I told my friend the following words, “How much ever marks you get its not important, it should be earned in right way? Next time try to get it with you own ability.” It did hurt him.He stopped speaking to me, with time that followed a whats app group got created excluding me, the past friendship was forgotten by him. I am no more a part of that group of friends, they speak behind my back, say I was a bad friend, neglecting me. I knew he got those marks with his own ability but I was in pain and stress which made me act the way I acted. I was a bad friend for not trying to stop them cheating in the first place instead helping them cheat. Then to get angry for the things they did, which i didn’t stop. If was a true friend I would have stopped them from doing the wrong not try to hurt them with words.
I lost a bunch of friends from this indent, but realized one thing, If I was a true friend i would have stopped them from doing the wrong and wouldn’t have joined hands. Now losing them was bond to happen as the correct thing for the whole gang was cheating and even if it was against my ethics I joined hands because I didn’t want to lose my place in the gang. Now I don’t have them either….
One bad truth about life not only in friendship is when something near to your heart is lost you tend to lose every other thing you have along with it.
True friendship is not only being partners in crime, because partners in crime doesn’t mean real crime, its just a phase… True friend is one who would never let the other take a wrong path even if it seems harmless.
Never let the ship sink by not taking the right path…. Friendship do sinks sometimes….